Elizabeth begins high school in two weeks. While other parents think clothing, supplies, I have a few extra things. One of which is enough to make me want to run and hide, I.E.P.
For anyone new here who hasn't run that fun meeting it is where you discuss yiur child's strengths and the areas where they fall short. This is a meeting only for students who have disabilities. Our first I.E.P. meeting took all of the wind out of our sails. Nothing screams failure (in my mom brain, not because anyone said that) like having a group if people dissect and tear down what your child deficiencies are. It isn't said meanly or to hurt you, but that doesn't make it stink any less. These meeting make me anxious and exhausted by the end. No one is cruel or unkind but it stinks listening to these flaws and feeling that maybe if you had done this different or eaten something else maybe others could see what you see. An amazing, beautiful, smart girl with an amazing heart.
And the truth is that Elizabeth has come so far. The girl who struggled with echolalia and spoke in jargon now can talk the hind leg off of a mule and I treasure every time I have to ask her to stop talking. The child who could only parallel play at first can now interact more with others. She has good days and bad days, but thankfully we go to a church with kids who are kind. We still struggle with impulse control and speech but she has still come so far in her years since age four. A lot of how far she has come is because she had us and a good team.
A good team is key. Let me say that again, A good team is key. People who fight just as hard as you do to break through the barriers and yet help you keep your child emotionally intact, because they realize that while your child may not fit what the world sees as normal that doesn't mean they are any less awesome. A good team will see Elizabeth's amazing and beautiful mind. They will see it as an asset instead of a detriment. A good team realizes that despite the frustration we all feel when it feels as if we may never progress that if we all keep trying then she will hit that milestone we are all working towards. A good team utilizes Chris and I as her parents to help get through to her. We have had that team before, I am praying we will have a team like that again this time around.
So ready or not here we go again. Public school is happening and I promised to give them a full year. Heaven help us all.
Have a good week.