Sometimes I wonder, why do some people get married and they live happily together, with a few minor tiffs and upsets. While others get married and it seems as if all they ever do is fight and argue and make each other miserable?
I've met some amazing couples who while they have their share of disagreements, are loving and kind and caring towards each other. My Aunt Nina and Uncle Ed, are a very good example of that type of marriage. I know other couples who will remain nameless who make each other miserable, but they are still married.
Why marry someone when there are red flags raised? Why not listen to that voice that tells you to get up from the table and run away and run as quickly as possible? Why is it some people choose to listen to that voice while others don't? Why is it that some choose to listen to God's voice instead of the voice of the world while others blatantly refuse to hear what he has to say? After all doesn't the Bible share with us what real love is supposed to be in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8? "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." (NIV - Blackberry Application) Why is it that in this world there are those who choose to live without God's love and without his rules?
In this aspect marriage/choosing your spouse is a lot like life and making choices to either sin or not to sin. Some of us make our way through life and we choose to live by God's way and to have a relationship with him. Then there are others who choose to willfully live outside of a relationship with him. Some choose to listen to 1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us of all unrighteousness." Wow! What an amazing promise. I find that even now in all these questions I find peace in knowing that while I may not have all of the answers, I do love the Lord and He carries me through the times of doubt and struggling.
Please, if you are struggling with life, with love, with marriage - you are not alone. God is there and he wants to know you in a real way. His book is his promise to us that what he says is true. It is designed to show us the long history he has of taking care of his sheep, just as the shepherd who searches for the one lost sheep - God also is searching for you.
What challenges are you facing today? How is your walk with Christ going? I'd love to know how I can pray for you.
Love in Christ,