Friday, January 30, 2009
Please keep the girls in your prayers. Elizabeth is starting to realize that Dad is not home and isn't coming home anytime soon, so she is becoming clingy and so is Beka. Sarah, is a little more mopey, but I think she keeps a lot kept inside. She is seeing a therapist, but I may need to find one for Lizzie next if she continues struggling.
I hope you all have a good week and a great day. God Bless you all. Thank you for your prayers and your support - it means a lot to us right now.
God truly is good. Cessna paid us this week for the vacation that Chris has accrued. And our taxes should be in by the weekend when we need to head to Nebraska! Praise God, truly - He is worthy to be praised. Thank you for your prayers and your support. I love you all.
Monday, January 26, 2009
It also got me to thinking. How even though I do not have a call to go to Africa or India (like my Aunt Chris and Uncle Frank) I do feel that I have a mission field here. God has been placing people in my path who I have opportunities to share about God with. It is scary and incredibly daunting. I am never sure what to say, but it's amazing how He always gives us the right words at the right moment when we need them. But realizing that God had answered my prayers that he would show me how I can help Him further the Kingdom, was a very cool realization for me. Why is it that I always have these great insights after Chris gets deployed? That is meant rhetorically, but it's a valid question nevertheless.
As I write about these enjoyable events, I also am listening to Sarah, Lizzie, and Brayden play Candy Land. Beka is watching a Veggie Tale video and I am about to play referee! LOL! The joys of a busy and yet cool household. I can honestly say that it has been a good week so far. Granted it is only Monday, but it really tends to start for me much earlier.
Thank you to everyone for your prayers and your support. It is making this deployment much easier. I hope you all enjoy your week and have a Happy Tet.
Love In Christ,
Sunday, January 25, 2009
As I write this, it is VERY cold! It is currently 24 but the wind chill makes it 12 degrees. So I decided we would be heathens today and stay in. We are having a jammie day and enjoying a quiet day at home. Beka is dancing and singing with her Little Einstein's video which arrived yesterday courtesy of Netflix and the big girls are playing together nicely upstairs. I love it when they get along. We have tea simmering in the tea pot and our pj's on and are just having a nice and uneventful day.
Chris will be in Nebraska February 13 - 18th, then he goes to Indiana. His brother, Jon is hoping to swing around that way since his trucking route goes through Indiana quite a bit. We will go up and meet him February 13th, but we have to return February 16th, because the girls have school the next day and I don't want them to miss anymore school than necessary.
And while I am still unsure if I am a glutton for punishment or inspired, I have decided to homeschool Sarah next year. She needs a few years of being sheltered, since she didn't get much of it during her younger years. Please keep her in your prayers, she is trying to hide it but she is really struggling. She's also been talking to me about why she thinks about suicide so much and that it is getting better. I am glad she chose to share with our youth pastor, Greg that she had been thinking about it. She is a little concerned that it will change how he looks at her, but I spoke with him privately and he's assured me that he doesn't. He doesn't strike me as that kind of man anyway, and I assured her that he didn't think she was a freak. Either way though, she is in therapy and she needs some major prayers.
I know that I usually have pictures up, but I am waiting for my new ac adapter for the laptop. Once I have that, I will be able to post new photos. I have been using the camera, but I can't download onto the desktop with the camera I have. I only have to wait one more week and then I should have received my adapter and I can post photos.
On a nicer note, Sarah has made 5th chair in the Viola section of Orchestra. That is 5th out of 14 other violists. She only was in the last chair last semester because she missed school the day they had their chair test due to an illness. So I am bursting at the seams with pride because she has been working pretty diligently at improving her viola skills. She put in three hours of practice last summer and puts in an hour a day at home during the school year. In fact, on Thursday this week, Sheri and I attended the Honor Roll breakfast at Mayberry to celebrate the kids who made honor roll this last 9 weeks. Sarah was one of them, she had a 3.8 GPA and is now at a 4.0. So we are proud of her. She also decided to surprise me yesterday afternoon by cleaning the living room and dining room. She did a very good job and decorated one the walls with art from her and Elizabeth. She is very creative and talented.
Beka is becoming adjusted to Daddy not being home a little at a time. And Lizzie told Mom yesterday afternoon (we were visiting) that she missed her Daddy. She has also told Mrs. Silveous her special needs teacher that she missed him . Oh and Mrs. Silveous told me that Lizzie is doing very well in Math. I had been concerned because she seemed unable to count to one hundred, but she explained she needs something to keep her focused, otherwise she gets to easily distracted. I was thrilled, because I was considering holding her back, but this helped allay my fears tremendously.
In summary, we are here and doing well. Trying to stay in the game and connected to the world around us. At this point I think we are doing well. I also think it helps that we knew this deployment was coming. Last time, wasn't supposed to happen, he was supposed to be a instructor and not be deployable, and it all fell apart and he was gone within a very short time after he joined the Reserves. This time we knew about 2 years in advance and we had discussed that it wasn't a matter of if he was deployed, but when he would be deployed. I think it makes a huge difference with how one is able to handle things.
I hope you all have a good week. Thank you for your love and prayers.
Monday, January 19, 2009
This is Lizzie on Mother's Day 2007 shortly after Rebekah was born. She loves this dress and I have to hide it from her so Beka can wear it someday.
We have made a huge breakthrough. After spending several weeks at home with Chris who has backed me up very well. Lizzie has begun to eat what I put in front of her. She balked a lot when Chris insisted that she had to eat her food. So I can't take any credit for this - he did it, he was more stubborn than she was and it worked. She is now eating her veggies and what I put in front of her. I told her tonight that she had eat her veggies and that she was going to eat spaghetti with the sauce. And she did. Thank you Chris! You are my hero.
Speaking of Chris, he arrived in California safe and sound and we were both pleasantly surprised to discover that he had cell service. He was there a few years ago and he couldn't get a signal, so this was nice. He even sent me a text message this morning to tell me Happy Anniversary. We've been married 8 years today. I thought I might be a little blue, but really we celebrated with a date the night before he left and we really celebrated in August when we renewed our wedding vows. So I'm okay with him missing this one, plus it isn't our ten year anniversary and I was able to prepare for this deployment mentally for a year or so before it happened. We also know that this is probably not the last deployment we are going to face. We've discussed that at length and I knew this was possible.
On a very positive note - Sarah has a 4.0 grade point average. She is doing very well and has really blossomed and is growing into herself. She is no longer as concerned with what the other kids think of her, she isn't completely comfortable in her own skin, but she is getting there. I am so insanely proud of her. She is growing into such a wonderful young woman.
I hope you all have a good week.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
LIZZIE WILL BE ALMOST NINE WHEN HE GETS BACK!!!! That is the age where we began discussing more opening, the birds and the bees with Sarah. We have always talked to the girls about their bodies, but it generally consisted of answering their questions and telling them not to let other people except Mommy or a Doctor touch their privates and only for medical reasons.
But at nine we tend to begin discussing sex a little more openly (within reason of course, some things are not for a child to know about). That kind of stunned me, it seems like we only began talking to her about her private parts just a few days ago and when he gets back it will be time for him to talk her about not kissing boys. Although, we are already talking to her about that - because we are encouraging the girls to wait until their wedding day to share their first kiss with a young man. Also we aren't allowing dating - any young man who wishes to get to know our daughters can do so in our house under our supervision.
I already have nay sayers, but you know I would rather the girls not grow up knowing the heartache of breaking up and the pain that go with making poor choices. They have so much time to grow up, but they only get to be children for a short while. Granted Lizzie will probably take longer, but wow, so many children today are growing up so quickly - for what. To be pushed out the door and not nurtured and love, or to have the real world help them grow up. I choose to believe what God said in Jeremiah - that He knows the plans he has for us, plans for our good and not for our harm.
Anyway, I just thought I'd share those thoughts. Chris leaves tomorrow and we will hopefully be able to see him in Nebraska in February and possibly in Indiana.
I hope you all have a good week. Thank you for your words of encouragement and your prayers. We will persevere and the show will go on.
Friday, January 9, 2009
On a happy note, this means we get to spend the next week with him. It also means it may be that much harder for him to go. He's been spending lots of time with Beka so she won't forget him - either way it will be difficult for her. She loves her Daddy so much and she smiles whenever he is around (okay and when she isn't in the middle of a temper tantrum. She is so hitting her two's right now).
Beka is growing so tall now. And while she may be taller than Lizzie was at her age - her hair is shorter and lacking as well. I have to laugh at how similar they look but how different they are at the same time. It is amusing, amazing, and wonderful to watch. Lizzie really is very good with Beka - she is incredibly patient with her. Although, Beka hates to be ignored - and is quite good at making her voice heard when she thinks you aren't paying enough attention to her.
I have plans for Sarah to go with Chris tomorrow and get in some quality time before he goes. She hasn't complained about anymore nightmares, but she may just not have mentioned them, or it is very possible I just forgot that she's told me. I think she is looking forward to him getting back.
Okay I have made a decision about school for Sarah. I have discovered that I can still allow her to attend courses at North High (such as JROTC and Orchestar) and be homeschool. I also think that she is incredibly bright and needs a challenge. And as much as she has her heart set on the idea of attending public high school - she has also thrilled at the idea that just because she doesn't attend there full time, it doesn't mean she won't be there. First for classes, but also so she can go and see her friends. I promised her that she can go up sometimes during lunch and visit with her friends. I also plan to go this week and talk to the school to find out what I need to do to get her enrolled for ROTC and orchestra next year. I think it will be good to keep us both busy and it will also allow some freedom in how quickly or slowly we take each subject. I have visited with several women who homeschool and have some good ideas about curriculum and what direction I'd like to take with her. I think it will be good for her and allow her to exercise her muscles.
I hope you all have a good weekend.
Monday, January 5, 2009
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Friday, January 2, 2009
New Years was good - we spent the evening at my friend, Sheri's home with her family and with Chris' dad, Bill and his nephew, Dakota. It was a visit that sealed the deal that Chris will be visiting his Dad w/o the girls or myself and that Wendy (Bill's wife) is no longer welcome here. She is a pot stirrer who likes to cause trouble and she went too far when she tried to put Sarah in the middle. So we're done - because I am not in high school anymore, and I won't play games with her. She can stay in Iowa and I will stay in Kansas and she just won't see the girls anymore - it's not like she is their grandma really anyway.
Okay so other than that, the girls are all ecstatic to see Chris again. They have missed him a lot. It is going to be very difficult for them when he goes for deployment. However, on a positive note - he is going to talk to his boss about going to first shift. Which I really need him to do. I am a single parent right now, because he is gone when the girls get home and Sarah gets up too early for him to see her.
On several positive notes:
1. We got to see Daddy for Christmas and the girls all enjoyed their presents (okay except Lizzie who was not happy that she got a math video game, but she loves the jammies and her books).
2. We had two whole weeks with Chris alone w/o him going to work which was very nice indeed.
3. We are trading in our Chrysler LHS for a minivan and it should work much better than the Chrysler. I have been talking to Mike for quite a while about getting rid of our car and getting a minivan. I was not happy when I got stuck with the Chrysler, because I need a minivan for sanity reasons and cargo reasons. We have a lot of trouble getting our good stroller into any of our two cars w/o causing the tires to go flat. So I looked around and found a nice 2003 Chevy Venture minivan, it is 5 yrs old w/only 84,000 miles on it, so I am pleased.
They laughed at me at the dealership, because first, I came and brought the following with me:
a) Rebekah and her car seat
b) Sarah and her long legs
c) THE STROLLER!
d) my desire to find a good van that would work for me and the girls and run well whilst Chris was away.
Then I brought Chris and Bud with me to check it out mechanically. Mike laughed when I told him that the van passed my test and now it had to pass their tests. Between Chris and Bud, they checked; tires, brakes, under the hood, belts, hoses and anything they could think of and test drove it as well. In the deal, the mechanics are going to check out the a/c and make sure it doesn't need a new air compressor or new hoses and that it all works well, because I HATE BEING HOT!!!!! I cannot stress that enough, but even more importantly, Lizzie has asthma and allergies and we can't drive with the windows down and not have both of our allergies and her asthma not flare up. Finally, I prayed a lot about the van and asked God to give me wisdom to know which van was the best one for us. So the shocks are going to be fixed, the a/c gone over with a fine tooth comb and I think I will get a good van out of this.
Well I hope you all have a good week. We are doing doctor's appointments, check ups, and shots this week and I am meeting with Mrs. Shrout from church to talk curriculum for home schooling. Please keep us in your prayers and God bless you all.
Love In Christ,